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22 Nov 2011

Is the Grass Really Greener?

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Sometimes we get stuck on what we think is a greener pasture.

“When X happens, then I will _________.”
“When I get that thing…..the raise, the new kitchen, the baby to sleep through the night….then I will be happy, satisfied, start eating better, talk to my spouse, etc. etc.”

We wait. Stuck. Doing the same thing over and over longing for the time when….

Or sometimes we think…

“That is it! This is what I am going to do! I am going to go to the other side of the fence! I don’t like this side anymore! I am going over there!”

And then we strive ahead, moving boldly towards that thing, only to arrive and find out that we aren’t actually any happier. That “thing” didn’t fulfill us the way we thought it would.

These behaviours are very common. These are the behaviours that keep us stuck.

This reminds me of the saying…”Where ever you go, there you are.”

The trouble with being caught up in the “grass is greener” way of living is that you avoid working on being present to what IS. Right here, in this moment.

Why would someone want to avoid being present? Because for some, being present means having to face what is going on right now. Facing it means you might have to feel it, or take responsibility, or change. We become afraid that the work required will be way too much to handle. We get exhausted, run down, and things start to slide. When this happens we start to look outside of ourselves and compare ourselves to others. That’s when the grass starts looking greener….if only…..

Here is what I know about the grass. When you get there, the grass is still green. Seriously, still green grass. You will still have challenges and obstacles to face. Life still happens. And when we do not accept this, and work on embracing what is, we keep up the mad search for new pastures. Constantly discovering new pastures isn’t as ‘fun’ as it may sound. It’s an attempt to find something… to fill the hole.

Every day I help people figure out how to fill that hole. To make the lasting changes they know they need. To find ways to face what they are
avoiding, and create new habits that actually work for them, not against them.

“The voyage of discovery is not in seeking new landscapes but in having new eyes.” – Marcel Proust

The grass really can be beautiful, no matter where you happen to find a patch – give me a call and let me show you how.