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20 Jun 2010

How to become a powerful magnetic force

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Last week I gave you the assignment of Saying Yes More Often.  I am willing to bet that some of you didn’t find many things to say yes to.  You may have wanted to ask someone for a date or ask for that raise, but neither situation presented itself. You may be wondering how is it possible to get more opportunities to say yes.

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06 Mar 2010

How to let go of the past to get on with your future.

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What made your list?  Last week I asked you to make a list of five things you would like to say.  I asked you to be aware of how withholding stops you from being spontaneous and sharing your thoughts freely.  This could be anything from being able to say what you want to say, from thanking or expressing love, or hurt, or asking for help.  What made your list?

When fear is running our lives we withhold to protect ourselves.  We don’t say things that make us uncomfortable.  We don’t like feeling exposed or vulnerable.  So we hold back, we wait for the other person to show a card first.  We hide, avoid, and keep quiet, carefully holding our cards to ourselves.  Ask yourself, what is the ace you are holding on to right now?

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06 Mar 2010

Are you stuck? Get out of your Comfort Zone!

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Did you find a couple of excuses that you are using a little too often?  Did you notice that “I’m too tired” is your common response?  Did you hear the bit of resentment you are hanging on to in the “Why bother” response that you caught launching out of your mouth 3 times a day.  I encouraged you to dig deep to find the excuses that you use most often.

So now that you are aware of your excuses, ask yourself, if this was true and I did it anyway, what would be the worst thing that could happen?  Would I lose something, or expose something? What is your best guess of what would happen if you put the excuse or reason aside?  Sometimes you may find a hidden opportunity to make a change.

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06 Mar 2010

Building your Confidence Muscle

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One of your assignments in this series has been to familiarize yourself with being uncomfortable.  I asked you to think about specific excuses you were using a little too often, and then not use those excuses for one week.  If you tackled that assignment, some of you may have felt a little overwhelmed at first but in retrospect would agree that you lived through it.  You may have even felt exhilarated by doing things a little differently.  Either way, by doing the assignment, you exercised confidence. Read more