09 Jan 2014

This 2014, Coach Yourself

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Did you take a minute to get back on your feet after the New Year? What are you really proud of yourself for accomplishing in 2013? Did you make a list? Take the time to reflect on your past year to help yourself build a better year this year. Start with kindness and take your time.

Beth’s Coach Yourself Response

After doing my own exercises as outlined in, “Ease Your Way into the New Year,” in my new eBook, Build a Better Year, this is what I have come up with. Do the work, the work works.

 

Four things I am definitely going to do again in 2014:

Understand Patience. I am understanding more and more the necessity to sometimes have to wait. Life basically is being able to use the skill of patience to get you through. Just because I think I am ready doesn’t mean that I get what I want. I will be clear and willing to understand that my conviction will get me further than wallowing in impatience. In 2014, I will continue to practice patience.

Use the big picture to keep me solid. I say it all the time, LIFE HAPPENS. So, when confronted with a challenge of life, I am going to remember my big picture and how this incident weighs in. I am going to keep the thoughts that keep me connected to my big picture and I am going to confront and face the thoughts that keep me weighed down in worry.  I am going to vocalize my fears as a proactive way to get out of my head.

Say things out loud. I hold myself more accountable when I say things out loud.

I am going to keep getting coached! One of the best things I did last year was assemble my team of coaches. After all, “Nobody gets by on their own.” -Maya Angelou

Last year after going to Oprah in Vancouver, I committed to telling myself, “it’s okay, you got this.”  I am going to do that again.  

My New Year wish for you is that you get your “sign” to stay true to your course. Whether it is getting out of a relationship, getting into one, chasing your dream, or wishing that you had one, I hope that you get it.

In the mean time, here is to slogging through another year in the life of the one and only you.

19 Jan 2013

Ready for a Blissful New Year?

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If you read my last article and were kind enough to yourself to ease your way into the new year, then good for you!  The next step now is to work with the intention you created for yourself for 2013.  We used kindness as the first step in moving ourselves into action, and now it’s that time, taking action!

Recently, I worked with a client that reminded me of something I think is key to  making your resolutions real, and that is having the discipline to take action.

In our exchange, she gave me a new favourite word, “Blissipline”.

We were strategizing ways to embrace and practice using discipline to empower her to take action on the goals that she had for herself.  She understood that having an intention was the pathway for her to realize her dreams.  Her stumbling block however, was actually getting to it.

I understand this very well.  For some people discipline is a natural.  For others it feels like a constant struggle.  For the people who struggle with discipline, I believe it is useful to think of it as a skill.  Like any skill, you need to practice and diligently work on it.  Figuring out how to do this in your own authentic way is something a lifecoach can help you sort out.

My client shared that she thought disipline was a yucky word that she didn’t want to like.  She liked being free, disipline was a downer!  I asked her to consider another perspective and think about discipline as a great tool to handle the many pressures in life. This is particularly true for entrepreneurial personalities who can have 10 good ideas  a day and easily get distracted.  These are the people with too many things going on at once – they eventually end up overwhelmed.  When overwhelmed, you become ineffective, which leads to beating yourself up because you never accomplish anything.  This is a vicious cycle that many smart, capable people find themselves in. Eventually you may even subconsciously stop trusting yourself, and your confidence erodes.

The truth is that following your bliss takes discipline.  Bliss isn’t really about doing anything you want when you want to.  Real bliss is following your dreams, feeling accomplished, and creating and nurturing that thing which you hold dear.

Pretty hard to live your bliss with eroded confidence and a constant feeling of overwhelm.

We all have enough life experience to know that confidence increases after completing things.  Think of your top 5 most confident moments in life.  I am willing to bet that most of those five are related to finishing something. Completing that which you set out to do.  Knowing that when it comes down to it, you have the discipline to get the task at hand done.

Remember and remind yourself:

Following my bliss takes discipline.  Bliss isn’t really about doing anything I want when I want to.  Real bliss is following my dreams, feeling accomplished, and creating and nurturing the intention that I hold.

Get beyond the illusion that bliss just shows up.  Go out there and make it happen for yourself.  Use discipline as your means of getting it. Embrace discipline, and true bliss can be yours.

COACH TIP: How are you willing to embrace being more disciplined?  Here are three techniques that I recommend using daily to keep yourself on track, on course, and committed to your  intention.

1)If your current to do list, (either written, or being carried around in your head) is longer than 12 things, get a pad of paper and write down the three most important tasks you can complete today.  These will be more minor tasks, or parts of larger projects that you can tackle and complete in one day.  If you are working on a big project, break it down into tasks, and focus on 3 things in a day.

2)Tell a family member or friend what you are working on. Saying something out loud helps you to become more accountable to it.

3)Ask yourself… “if not now, when?”. Get clear about when you can do something, and schedule it in.  Putting things off with out getting clear of of when you will get back to it, is a trick of procrastination.