18 Oct 2012

In my next life, I’m going to be a Rock Star!

No Comments Fearless Living, JCI - Junior Chamber International, Live your best Life

This blog is from Beth. Just Beth.

Most of my blogs are from my Life Coach Beth voice.  I love to share tangible tips on how to live your best life.  I urge you to use powerful questions that get to the heart of whatever keeps you from letting your light shine.  I want you to be your best self and believe that everyone has something unique and amazing to contribute.  I believe for you, until you can believe it for yourself.  Writing my blogs has been a digging deep experience.  It is my one year anniversary of blogging.  Thanks for checking me out!  Your feedback and responses have been amazing.

Today as I sit to write, what’s really on my mind is the trip that I took a few weeks ago. It was to the JCI National Convention in Kimberly, and there I had the opportunity to remember the truth of who I am, and that truth is this…

In my next life, I’m going to be a Rock Star!

Far and wide, I would have to say that I am pretty much known as ‘Party Beth’.  I like to party!  And I am good at it!  I will admit, it can get pretty ridiculous at times, but the truth is my favourite place to be is party ring master.  I can sustain pretty heavy doses of toxic overload, and can survive on little sleep.  I have a very good tolerance, and although that is not the best way to treat my body, the truth is, if I could pick, I would rather die partying than any other way. I have had so many ‘Rock Star’ experiences in my life that I figure I must be in ‘training’ for my next magnificent life; the one where I am an actual Rock Star.

The thing is, I can also party completely sober and derive the same amount of JOY from it.  Because it’s the joy that is my goal!  I seek happiness, laughter, levity, companionship, friendship and joy, and I cannot think of a greater good then the pursuit of joy. At a wedding once, a fellow joy seeker came dancing up to me and yelled, “Look! How decadent, we are dancing!”.  I thought that was the best line I had ever heard.  How decadent indeed to fill yourself so full of the good stuff that you are actually dancing.

So, what brings you JOY? Partying and dancing do it for me, but many people don’t need or want to stand on tables and dance to experience joy; people roll in many different ways.  One of my greatest hopes is that everyone comes to realize and embrace the ‘Rock Star’ experiences that feed their soul, whatever they may be.

I had a completely JOY filled week at JCI Canada National Convention in Kimberly. I had several ‘Rock Star’ moments and experienced real JOY.  As usual I walked away wondering why JCI Canada does not have thousands and thousands of members like they do in Japan.  It is simply the best organization for 19-39 year olds in the world.  Check it out.

Here are some of my joy filled moments with some really great friends…

In our condo getting ready for Bavarian Theme night.

At the Gala Dinner last night of the Convention.

The three flights of stairs to get to the Condo where the JCI Okanagan crew stayed, were a big topic of conversation!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

30 Aug 2012

Don’t cry because it is over, smile because it happened ~ Dr. Seuss.

1 Comment Goal Setting, Live your best Life, Motivation

Wow. Summer. I love summer, and I had such a good summer this year. I am very proud of myself, because that is exactly what I set out to do this year, enjoy every last bit of summer. {Be on Purpose this Summer ~ Tips to make summer last longer.}

And it is not over! I am determined to suck ever ounce of sunshine goodness, but there is no denying that the bounty of autumn is ready to be picked. Apples are nearly ready and school is upon us. September days are here again.

What are your September goals?  Have you gotten clear about what you want to accomplish by Christmas? Have you checked in with your New Year’s intention? Have you given yourself credit for the good you have created so for in 2012?

Fall is the time for harvest and when we prepare for the upcoming winter. We usually embark on the autumn months with a renewed sense of getting at “it”. Much like the New Year, September brings a new set of ambitions to complete before the snow flies. Learn my top six tips for keeping up with your autumn to do list. Forget about motivation and find out what it really takes to become an unstoppable you. Join me on September 5 at 6PM PST.

Even though I feel like moaning because summer of 2012 is flashing by, I am taking the time to be grateful and practice mindfulness of what I do want. I am smiling because it happened. What about you?

23 May 2012

Move on. How to Let Go Of Your Past

No Comments Fearless Living, Life Coaching, Live your best Life

Most clients that come to me have something that they need to let go of in order to move forward. Moving on is a process, but with the help of a skilled life coach, it is an achievable dream. If you find that you holding on prevents you from moving forward, then read on!

Funny enough, holding on to your past shows up in how you withhold from being spontaneous and sharing your thoughts freely. This could be anything from being able to say what you want to say, from thanking or expressing love, or hurt, or asking for help. When fear is running our lives we withhold to protect ourselves. We don’t say things that make us uncomfortable. We don’t like feeling exposed or vulnerable. So we hold back, we wait for the other person to show a card first. We hide, avoid, and keep quiet, carefully holding our cards to ourselves. Ask yourself, what is the ace you are holding on to right now? Make a list of five things you would like to say, but have not been able to. Could be anything from being able to say what you want to say, from thanking or expressing love, or hurt, or asking for help. Push yourself to get that list of 5 things you would like to say.

What made your list? Ask yourself what stands in your way of saying them? For each of your stifled or withheld thoughts or deeds, ask yourself, what am I holding on to here? Maybe you are holding out for that well deserved apology or maybe you don’t want to risk going first. Now, consider what it is that you are telling yourself in order to support you in hanging on to that. What do you tell yourself so that you can keep your cards to your chest?

Usual answers to this question are things like, “what’s the point? I have done enough already, I don’t know how, they are not worth it, it would hurt them” etc. Inside all of those kinds of responses lies an excuse of some sort. Excuses excuse us from taking the steps necessary to make changes in our daily life.

Think about a challenge you currently have in your life. It could be a work challenge, a relationship challenge or a health issue. What is your most common response or action that you take in reaction to that challenge? Do you blow up, or shut down, or procrastinate, or bolt. Do you hide, deny, or complain?

For the next week, pay attention to your common excuses. Do you blame your spouse, or put it off until next Monday? Do you give up?  What are your excuses? I challenge you to find three things that you catch yourself doing that might seem like an excuse.

This is a tricky assignment because what if some of it seems real and legitimate? What if, I can’t give up this job with benefits, or I can’t afford another sitter, or it was on sale, or I am too tired, what if all of those completely justifiable reasons are the tiniest bit truthful? If so, be willing to dig a little deeper, under all your perfectly logical reasons, lies a thread. That thread is a big old excuse that probably stems from a fear. Behind your excuses lies your key to uncovering where fear may be getting the best of you.

This week, pay attention to your excuses.  Can you find some common responses or justifications that you use often? Identifying how you withhold, and what you use to excuse yourself for doing so is an essential step in setting you free from your past, so that you can focus on your future.

09 May 2012

Knowing when to say good-bye

No Comments Decision Making, Fearless Living, Free Life Coaching Tips, Love

Follow Your HeartA client of mine who is single and dating recently took a big step and broke off a relationship that on the surface looked all good. She had a nagging feeling that things just were not right – something felt off. She used this three step process to decide whether it was her true self making her feel this way, or her inner voice of fear trying to influence her decision.

Use this three step process to help you check in with your boundaries and get clear about when to say, enough is enough.

Step One:
How do I feel when I am with this person?

If words like free, myself, happy, natural, come up, then you are on the right track. If instead you feel on edge, responsible, uneasy, tense, or on guard pay attention to this. If you can honestly say that your thoughts & feelings are definitely more from the second list, be willing to look at this closer. Be willing to notice these feelings without reacting to them. This means you don’t have to immediately act on them. Instead you get to choose to reflect on them, and then decide how you want to act. Taking the time to pay attention to how you feel when around another person is an essential step in creating intimacy.

Quiet Reflection: 

Ask yourself what is my intuition telling me to do? Intuition is that quiet knowing voice.  The voice that snaps answers at you or tells you that you are stupid, weak, crazy, or too sensitive is not your quiet knowing voice – that is your voice of fear. Your true voice gives you gentle nudges. Take the time to stop and quietly reflect, what is my intuition telling me?

Step Two:
Know what you are committed to.

What kind people do you actively want to bring into your life? Create your own personal list of attributes that you seek in others. Know and be clear about what you actually stand for. If you have been doing the work that comes with my blog, your sense of what your most important priorities are, are becoming clearer to you. Use this good work you have been doing to help yourself really understand what you’re committed to. What is your intention? Ask yourself if you see this person supporting that with you.

Step Three:
Ask for what you want.

When you are clear on what you are looking for, your next step is to ask for support. The truth is that the really good stuff in life does require work. In fact, the work you put in is actually what makes it worthwhile. When you are able to ask for what you want, people are more able to support that. It eliminates the game playing, guessing, and expectations that get in the way of what could be potential relationships. Fear runs many relationships. Instead, be clear and ask for the support that you know you need. It will become clearer then whether this is a person that you want to continue seeing or if it is time for you to say good-bye. It takes courage to leave a budding relationship and strike out on your own again. Let your commitments to yourself be your guide. Your commitment to yourself is always the right path.  

01 Sep 2011

September Days Are Here

No Comments Building Confidence, Free Coaching Tips, Live your best Life

“By all these lovely tokens
September days are here,
With summer’s best of weather
And autumn’s best of cheer.”
–   Helen Hunt Jackson, September, 1830-1885

September feels like the end, but in other ways it is just the beginning.  September has a new year kind of feel.  Who amongst us has not thought at some time this summer….”in September I will start_______.”  That is probably why so many of us groan and sigh that September is upon us.  It means it is time to get our butts back in gear.  We set ourselves up with big expectations that we are going to do this, start that, and accomplish all that we did not during the lazy days of summer.

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